I need to do these

I felt that I grew up in the moment when I understood my needs and I started to satisfy them more than thinking to the others.

It is not a matter of age, but it depends on the experiences you have, the people you meet, and the lessons you get.

Even if you might feel the pressure of fitting in some templates, there are some things that I need to do on my own.

I’m still getting used to this, but until now I learned:

• It is not worthy to have the final word - this doesn’t show that I am smarter than the other person. And not everything needs a reaction from my side.
• It’s ok to say no. For some people you can justify this; for others, you don’t need to do this. People who judge you for this refusal might be people for whom your well-being counts less than theirs.
• It doesn't matter who is guilty of this, but it is better to understand what can we take from this and what are our next steps. Forgiveness is good first for ourselves, not for the others.
• It’s never too late to start something new. Just make a list with wishes and start checking it, step by step.
• Take care of yourself how you want others to do. And not blaming yourself or judging yourself. Be kind to yourself first. Embrace all the imperfections you have.
• It is not ok to control everything and to have an answer to everything. It is ok to be childish or clumsy because in this way others might understand how they can help you.It is ok to fail or to quit. In this way, you will understand what doesn’t fit you or what you can develop for yourself.

Looking back, there are some things I wish I learned earlier. Now, when I am doing this, I know that people might feel that I changed myself and maybe they are not used to this.

But changes are part of the growth, right?

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